Meditation for June 5th, 2016
8 Reasons You Shouldn’t Be In A Relationship
1. You Have No Idea Who You Are
How are you going to know who you want to date if you’ve wasted your life up to this point being what you thought others wanted you to be. People who know who they are know who they want to date.
The other issue is some lost person who is floating through life directionless and meaningless is not attractive.
Go to India, do DMT with no supervision, find yourself, get married. BOOM!
2. You Spend Too Much Time Seeking Love
You’re even on Tinder. Anytime your friends talk about other friends, you want to know if any of them are single and attractive. You are in a hurry to get married, make two kids, adopt two other kids from other parts of the world, buy a house and start an apple butter craft business.
People smell desperate. Why is this person single? Why are they so desperate for a relationship? They must be broken or actually unavailable.
Do the things you love instead of doing everything for love. Duh!
3. Where Is Prince/Princess Charming?
That person doesn’t exist. No one is going to swoop in a save you from your miserable existence. You will have to clean up your life if you want to attract someone. No one wants to save someone in less they are suffering from their own deep seeded emotional issues.
Be careful for what you pray for.
Make an ideals list so that you create a realistic Prince/Princess Charming. Take résumés.
4. You’re Not Willing To Change Your Shitty Attitude
You’re a great person, you are giving, caring, good-looking and single, but you always have to be right. You keep saying you don’t care what people say about you or how that’s the way you are, but you are also alone and misersable – all to be right.
You don’t have to change your real self to find a partner, just cut out the bad attitude.
Smoke weed and listen to some dead, man. Chill out.
5. You Are Wanting A Fix
Maybe a certain someone to love and care for, watch movies and take late night strolls will help alleviate your crippling depression or some catastrophic event in your life. Maybe that certain person will help you forget the shitty things.
Just drink instead; it’s a whole lot simpler.
6. Becoming a Mirror
You are trying to adjust everything you do to become your crush’s perfect mate. You are interested, suddenly, in what they are, you change your style and listen to different music, just to attract a certain person. You are creating yourself to become a giant lie.
If they don’t like you, it’s not you, it’s them, or it is you and your shitty attitude trying to be right all the time.
Be yourself and you will attract someone as awesome as you. Hopefully you’re awesome. Water seeks its own level.
7. You’re a Goddamn Mess
Your life is out of control, you don’t have a job, there’s kids and government involved, your life story at this point is a legendary Jerry Springer show. You just can’t catch a break. Maybe you see a light at the end of the tunnel, but it ends up being a deadly train. Who would date you now? If they did want to date you, because genitalia will beat rational thought, why would you let them join your shit show?
Get your shit together before taking a hostage into your life. It’s easier to fix your life single.
8. You Don’t Pay Attention To Anyone’s experience and/or Advice
Yes, you read this. Yes, you have all kinds of self-help books and you peruse wellness blogs. Yes, you do yoga and meditate. Yes, you do ask people for advice or ask people about their experiences, but you don’t listen. You are a sex starved mammal. Your logic betrays you in matters of love, so stop reading lists and how to find love books. Some of the best relationships I know looked hilariously wrong on paper, but are strong loving relationships in real life.
Go out and make mistakes. If you learn and don’t repeat mistakes, you ar a success.
Now go out there and mess someone’s life up!