Meditation for July 7th, 2016
I Don’t Know What To Do Anymore
I want to make you laugh, I want to let you know that this simple solution over here will fix everything or I want to make a few people who think differently to suffer and know that their life is a waste. I have flipped through pages and pages of websites talking about all kinds of different topics that I could write about in a funny real way. I just can’t find anything.
I watched two videos of men getting shot in cold blood.
I am sick. The very breath I use to live and meditate has been knocked out of me. I don’t want to keep seeing this.
I also don’t want to hear or read most of your responses to it. I don’t want to read your links that may or may not tell me how I could be a better ally, or how this simple change to our system will get rid of systematic racism, militarized police officers, gun violence and the political system that is failing to help anyone. I don’t want to hear your witty banter, your angry written all cap screams, your comedy, your, “is it too soon?” joke, your leftist weak ass open letter writing whine, nor do I want to hear your jihadist bible gun loving dixie flag racist bullshit either.
Nothing is funny.
I want to make it all go away. I want to just say love each other, and you act like it. You can write all kinds of great love puke on a blog (like this one) or your cute little social media site, but it’s when you’re out in the world, love each other. Love the family and friends, but love the strangers. Give the homeless crazy guy a chance, give the stuck up rich bitch a chance. . . just love.
Here is how you act like you love instead of hate (fear):
Smile – Even if your day is shitty and you want to tear down everyone else down to your awful level, smile. Someone will notice and smile back. That smile will change you. It’s also okay not to smile. It’s okay to feel any feeling you feel, but sometimes faking a smile makes a mile of difference.
Talk Well – Say exactly what you want to say. Say it well. Take your time to say it so it is exactly what you mean to say. Don’t be worried about hurting someone with truth. Truth hurts, but helps grow a person.
How Do They See It? – Look at their point of view. Maybe you can finally see something differently if you listen to how another person sees the world.
Don’t Be In A Hurry – Don’t be snappy or rude. Don’t be impatient with a slow talker. Don’t put down ideas or feelings. Be supportive and actively listen to their words. Don’t belittle.
Be Confident – But don’t be an egotistical ass.
Always Look On The Bright Side – Don’t live in the dark with Morrissey, clove cigarettes and wishing for fire to consume the world, look for the better side of things. You might not believe it or need to hear it, but someone else might.
Respect – Just be nice and warm. Be courteous. You don’t have to act like the world grumpy person, we already have lots of them, we need nice people.
Be Aware Of Your Opinions and Behaviors – You don’t like ska. We get it. You don’t have to bring it up every time. You might actually like a ska song. You don’t have to push at people with your opinions and behaviors because 1 no one cares about your opinion and B you just look like an asshole
Be Useful – Help people. Help people move, help people deal with things, work on their car and yard, listen to them cry about how much ska sucks, say nice things about them behind their backs…There are thousands of ways you can help someone.
Be Altruistic – Help people for no other reason than to help them. Help someone and don’t tell anyone.
Pranks and Jokes Aren’t Funny To Everyone – You have some friends that love joking around. That’s great news, but don’t be bringing in collateral damage and or people not interested in that shit. Keep those jokes in the tree house.
But Don’t Forget to Laugh – You can be funny and not at someone else’s expense. We need to laugh even in the worse of times.
Be A Goddamned Gentleperson – Bathe, clean your clothes and just be a hygienic person. Be polite and follow social cues.
Love – When you face indecision or intense negative emotion, pause, and think how a person in love would react to this. If you are on a social media argument, how would a person who loves react to this. If you are not sure what the right thing to do, look at where fear will lead you and where love will lead you and you will see your answer.
Always ask for help even if you think you don’t deserve it.
I love you.
Hopefully tomorrow I can return to my normal meditation blog.
Yesterday was horrible and today and tonight, the way we treat each other. The way we often leave people in pain because we are too afraid to join hands and really be there for each other. And what to do with the emotion of it all is hard, and everything is making me sick. Its hard to go to love in these moments. So your reminders came in handy this evening and are calming. And I just wanted to say thanks for that, and for sharing such authentic emotion, out loud.