Meditation for July 21st, 2016
Whatever You Do, Don’t Be Yourself
Some of us were raised to believe that we are special. That people are like snowflakes; no two are alike. We are told to just be us. We search out ways to be more authentic as we get older, letting go of caring what other people think of us.
Be yourself. Do that and you will regret it. Your authentic and sincere self is not okay in other people’s opinion.
Here are some reasons to not be yourself.
People won’t trust you
You can be real, and being real means you can share your fears and your past, but now that person won’t trust you.Fear devalues trust in others. Giving up the fact that you aren’t sure of something or scared of the outcome will make a person close off from you in case you’re right or turn into that piece of shit you keep saying you used to be.
You’ll just be the same
If you concentrate really hard finding a sincere real authentic self, you are making yourself close minded. You are basically saying you are an asshole, always was an asshole and always will be an asshole. You won’t be open to new ideas, growing as a person or evolving. Basically you’ll be a shitty republican.
You might be wrong as a person
What if you are your authentic self and your authentic self isn’t right about something? What if your values as a person is uneducated and unfounded? You’d have to change. Your whole outlook on life might not be right, so then your authentic self isn’t authentic, but a shitty person.
Here is how you undo your authentic self and become something better than you. You’re not good enough right now. You don’t know enough to be set in your ways. You aren’t a stature of yourself, completely immortalized as the one good deed you did and hopefully everyone forgets all the horrible things you did to the Cherokee by making them walk from Florida to Oklahoma, but because you’re a war hero and knew how to duel like a man, you get to be on a twenty dollar bill.
You fucking grow up
You’re not done growing. You cannot accept yourself as you are right now. You are barely your true potential. Trying to understand other people’s point of view and being okay with being wrong makes you grow as a person and therefore you become better than you are now. Don’t be you now; you suck ass.
Don’t self-promote
If you are being yourself, then you are self-promoting you to someone who either has bought your authentic self or doesn’t care. If you feel like you need to share a strong opinion, you are basically saying, “I am David Everett Fisher, and I believe this to be true. Buy my brand.” If you tell a story of your past, you are saying, “I am David Everett Fisher, and this is the story of my brand and how I got here to bless you with my existence.” Anyway, if you are sharing a story, the person isn’t listening, but heard some key word and is thinking of a story that will make yours pale in comparison. Don’t self-promote, you aren’t that great.
You aren’t really in their shoes
“walk a mile in my shoes…” is some quote that some asshole said once. Many think it was those people that had to walk from Florida to Oklahoma that came up with that. Sometimes you have to understand that your authentic self and your opinions that you have about things because of your authentic self is just offensive to other people. Sometimes you have to judge your audience before being all real and shit. You don’t always have to prove a point even to people that are struggling with a real struggle.
Respect other cultures and have some tact.
Seriously though, you can be a tad stoic though
If you have close friends and family, you can cry to them, but you don’t have to get all personal to every person you meet. You don’t have to tell all your coworkers your health drama or your dating shenanigans all the time. You aren’t the singer of sagas. We read books and watch TV to stay away from the personal touch of knowing the person going through the ringer. It’s one thing watching Piper in jail in a cute dramedy Netflix series, it’s another thing to listen to someone share their prison horror stories in person. If you’re having a bad day, stuff it, smile and wait till you are around those that actually love you before you put on the water works. We don’t care enough.
If you keep pissing people off or feeling like you aren’t liked, it’s probably because you aren’t smart enough to understand tactful intelligence and make the best decision of what you reveal about yourself. This isn’t about playing a character, but it’s about being your true authentic self in different levels.